My wife S. and I are trying so hard to have a 2nd baby. We have a 2 1/2 year old son, LM (Little Monster), who I gave birth to. His known donor (KD) is S’s brother (referred to as UD), so LM is related to both of us. It worked the first try. We had no fucking idea how lucky we were.
We started trying to have our second child a year and a half ago. First potential KD didn’t work out. Neither did our second one…Mr. Gay Sperm Man. He wanted to much involvement. Neither did our 3rd, The Fireman. He just wasn’t right. So we moved on to frozen, and were feeling great about it when our perfect KD showed up (Previous Potential Known Donor, PPKD and his wife, The Wife). Long story short, they said yes…it was almost the happiest we have ever been. Then they (well she) changed it to a maybe and then, ultimately, months later said no. We moved onto frozen again, but felt shitty about it, and the 2 IUIs failed.
Then a good friend of mine offered her husband. So we switched to our final KD. After four failed fresh inseminations it was time for some testing and medical interventions. At that time we went through the gut wrenching process of deciding how mush S really wanted to be pregnant, and ultimately she made a huge sacrifice. We decided for me to go again, and asked her brother and his wife. We were utterly shocked when they said “we can’t do it right now,” indefinitely, and without explanation. Holy crap. I hate writing this is in such an abbreviated manor. It takes the pain out of it.
Anyhoo, we switched back to S (she got an HSG) because we can’t wait again for what might be a no from UD and his wife, even though we want more than anything, at this point, to have a full sibling for LM, and a pregnancy already. Fuck. I guess that’s it.
I’m getting better at waiting.
So after 6 tries fresh tries and some bad experiences at the RE (Reproductive Endocrinologist) our regular OB prescribed Clomid. Bam. Pregnant. Then some bad ultrasounds later: Miscarriage at 8 weeks. Painful D & C. Fuck.
Tried again: Nope
Tried again with Clomid: Nope.
Tried AGAIN with Clomid and hcG trig.ger sh.ot: Pregnant.
6w3d ultrasound: confusing.