two uteri, two mamas pregnant, AGAIN, with baby number two

how it went April 13, 2007

Filed under: ttc — charlotte @ 6:44 pm



The lying was really terrible for S, but no one is suspecting anything, which I suppose is good. Everything else is fairly shitty. Here is god damned deal:

they DO require a blood panel

they DO require a semen analysis

they are NOT open on weekends

they request that the semen be collected offsite then brought in (apparently “the sample needs to sit for a half hour anyway before being processed” WTF??)

she gave S a pelvic despite the fact that she has had like 35 pelvics since January


If I had known this shit I would have sent S to one of the local sperm banks or a goddamn fertility clinic, where they are experts at handling and washing sperm. I asked the receptionist MULTIPLE times EXACTLY what would be required, I had her check with the nurse MULTIPLE TIMES to make sure the information was correct, I gave her my phone number and told her to call me if she got ANY new information, and of course I got the *wrong* information.


Now we must ask RM to go into a lab and get his blood drawn and get his semen collected. This is exactly what we wanted to avoid.


And I know this shouldn’t bug me, but I have to pay an extra $27 to have S’s medical records sent to us instead of the new doc so we can edit out any info about me.  If they are sent directly to the new doc there is no charge. I know $27 is no big deal in the scheme of this whole debacle, but it irks me like a papercut.

To top it off S and I got in a huge fight when she called to give me the details of her appointment. She was feeling relieved that it was over, and glad that it went well. As I asked for further information, I began to get more and more angry that we were given the wrong info, and frustrated and grumpy. She got grumpy and stressed about me being grumpy and stressed. She missed a morning of work, and stressed all week only to go to a place where we still must jump through hoops and make RM jump through hoops, and not even go to an expert sperm washing facility.


On the not complaining side, she will do an IUI, IF IT IS ON A WEEKDAY, and she’s fine with Dr. Poor Social Skills monitoring S. S and I made up, but I’m still feeling teary frustration that yet another part of this is not going as planned. I knew it wouldn’t, but it still sucks. Oh, and we are 8DPO. S just called me and said sweetly “maybe it worked this time, maybe the cramping I had last night was implantation cramps.” I simply had nothing to say back. I dug deep and finally found a weak and halfhearted “maybe.”


5 Responses to “how it went”

  1. whathef*ck Says:

    cramping last night? that isnt normal for her is it? on day 7 no less? not that you want hope to seep in and break your heart anew.

    dont worry about rm. he’s a big boy, he can go to a lab and do what needs to be done. as always, you are dealing with a generous guy who really is willing to help and doesnt mind dealing with atrip to a lab. remember how much nicer he is than me. and he is very grateful (me too) for all of your support, friendship, talking me down from ledges, deadbaby consolaton, help, and visits. and now you are dealing with all of this shower business. nobody’s keepin score here but if we were, we’d be in pretty deep. cross that off your list sister.

  2. Co Says:

    I’m glad S. felt relieved and no one suspects anything. I am sorry that you were misled about exactly what S. and RM needed to do and that now there are more hoops to jump through. That sucks.

    And the only on weekdays thing really sucks.

    And having to pay $27 so you can white yourself out of medical documents is ridiculous.

    I am sorry. I hope S. is pregnant and you guys don’t have to deal with any of this. But you really do have a good plan in motion, if need be.

  3. Bri Says:

    Hunh. I am sorry it was shitty. This is a rather blech position – having it be possible but not exactly easy and certainly not simple or straightforward. I am sorry. This stuff sucks sucks sucks shit.

  4. Lo Says:

    I’m sorry….I really, really hate it when I have done my homework and then someone else has given the wrong information or otherwise screwed up. There’s really no excuse for that shit.

  5. Melody Says:

    I don’t understand. Can’t you collect the sample at home yourself then and take it in? Does this release R from having to come to future doc appointments with S all together? Surely he doesn’t have to go to a lab just to make his deposit!

    That thing about no weekend insems just bites ass. That’s one of the reasons we started going to an RE instead of our gyno. But if it’s going to be that way, at least you’re doing fresh, not frozen insems, so the sperm will last longer. You don’t have to do your insems on O day.

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