two uteri, two mamas pregnant, AGAIN, with baby number two

She’s OK….She’s Not OK….She’s OK….She’s Not OK April 4, 2006

Filed under: Uncategorized — charlotte @ 2:47 am

Today, The Wife is NOT OK.

KD left work early to go home and call her (remember, she’s in another state). He thinks that this is definitely not a “no” conversation, just that they need to work out some issues in their own relationship surrounding donorship. He thinks none of this would be happening if she were here and not 1,000 miles away.

But she is, and here we are. In queasy stomach limbo. I hate queasy stomach limbo. Hate it.

I feel up in the air again. I cannot tell you how badly I want this to work out, but at the sperm bank you pay for them to screen for you, and deal with all of the logistics so that you just get a popsicle which helps you make a baby. It is looking mighty attractive at the moment.

I’m just tired, ya know?


7 Responses to “She’s OK….She’s Not OK….She’s OK….She’s Not OK”

  1. Sara Says:

    I’m so sorry that this drama is continuing…. Hang in there!!!

  2. Calliope Says:

    the wife clearly needs a week off & some xanax. Just know that whatever is in her bonnet seems to be of her own making. I’m sure she feels left out of the mix being in another state & her flitting back & forth could just be a way for her to get some attention.

  3. Tamsin Says:

    Sorry it’s proving to be such a rollercoaster ride :o( Hope that you can all hang on in there a little bit longer, until she gets to move, then hopefully things will resolve themselves.

  4. Estelle Says:

    Wow. Sorry that things are up in the air again.
    I’m sure this is all overwhelming for her as well. I hope that everything can be worked out and everyone is all happy again.

  5. hd Says:

    Oh. My. Good. Lord. I don’t even know what to say. Just sorry…that limbo feeling sucks.

    Hang tough.

  6. Trista Says:

    UG. I’m really hoping that it’s just stress talking and that she’ll be fine… but this is so hard on you guys and for that I’m sorry and hoping you can find some peace.

  7. M. Says:

    Ugh is right. Have you thought about all of you going to a couple of counseling sessions together to get all your fears/desires out on the table? Obviously this would have to wait until she’s in town. I’ve thought several times that this would be a good idea in our situation. I guess the bottom line is that donorship brings up major issues for everyone invloved and everyone is entitled to their feelings, process, etc. The problem is when those feelings and processes clash with those of the other people in the situation.

    I really don’t know what else you could do to help The Wife. I understand that she probably had no idea that she was getting into a highly emotionally charged agreement. She probably thought she could be detached and then realized she couldn’t be. She may also feel threatened by S. and KD’s relationship. There’s a lot of shit here on all sides.

    What are KDs ideas about helping her feel more comfortable?

    The other thing that really helped us (and you may not be at this stage yet) was to go through the process of the contract with lawyers. Since all of the talk can be mushy, dreamy, blah blah, it really helped everyone in our situation be clear when we talked to our respective lawyers. It really helped clarify for DtD who has the power and what we were doing. And, it helped us get more on the same page.

    Our thoughts are with you!

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