PLEASE tell me if you think it is too blunt or needy or weird in any way. Anything I should add, subtract or make more articulate??????
I wanted to write you an email because I have not found a way to just say this to you in person. Whether or not you actually become our donor, I want you to know how deeply grateful I am that you are willing to do it. It feels like the most important gift anyone can give us.
When thinking of an ideal donor, I could not have imagined a more perfect match for S. and I than you. Physically of course, you are great – S. and I both think you are hot, you are tall, great bone structure, an incredibly beautiful voice. Your family members look like me! But really I would love for you to be our donor because of who you are. I appreciate that you are honest, authentic, funny, smart and quite charming, and can only hope that if you help us make a child he or she would inherit all of these qualities.
Yet more than the sum of all of your qualities – your character and looks – to me it just feels right for you to be our donor . This feeling was immediate and undeniable. S. told me how deeply she connected with you, so I knew you must be a fabulous person, but I was still surprised to immediately love you. I have never felt so safe, and so fearless about any donor helping to get S. pregnant, in my stead. I did not imagine that I was capable of feeling so enthusiastic about any donor, until it happened with you.
In addition, the idea that we would be tied to you for life, in some capacity, feels relieving and also very cool, rather than scary. We like you and we trust you and would love for you to be in our lives, regardless of whether you become our donor.
I hope that this does not freak you out, or pressure you in any way. Of course I understand that many hurdles remain. I would never want this to interfere with your friendship with S.. I still have a many questions. And if your wife says no, or you change your mind at any point, we will completely understand. Truly. We do have other options. I just wanted to officially tell you why I would love for you to be our donor.
All my love and friendship,